Random thoughts visited my inner
head from day to day including crazy thoughts and fun thoughts purely about myself
alone for more than a month now. Although my brain, to be honest, had been
disintegrating solely for the purposes of subdividing it for different subjects
I have in school, I still could not subject myself to detach from our house, my
son, my husband, our home and our family. I only realized later tonight that
much have changed on my son’s attitude. There was a mixture of dependence and
INDEPENDENCE.
School has taken much of my time
away from my family especially my son, who really needs me and my guidance more
than anyone else. I must admit that I could not take care of him the way I did
before because the course I am studying now is a very jealous profession. It
took much of my time, that even 6-hour reading a day would never suffice the
expected answers that our Professors wanted from us. With so much awe I had for
this course, I unwontedly and yet permissibly let days passed without me making
something for my son like painting activities or drawing session and even our
play times had been forgotten.
To my surprise, I had somehow
helped him grow when I stayed focused with schooling. I unexpectedly taught him
independence. Yes, certainly he is just 2 years and 3 months old and yes, he
needs my undying support and nurture. However, at some point, I need to detach
my emotions as much as he needs to detach his emotions from me. Not all the
emotions but the term being “DEPENDENT” is what I must give highlight for this
matter. The simple logic is that, I certainly do not want him to grow and reach
4 or 5 years old and see him whining in school because he won’t let go of my
hand during his classes. It happened to me when I was the teacher and the kids
won’t let go of their moms and they wanted their parents to be inside the
classroom. Plus, they wanted their parents to answer their school activities
for them. If I will allow that, I am no longer helping my son.
I have realized that my son could already do
the following:
1. He
removes his own underwear, pyjamas and shorts. He wears the pyjamas and shorts
without buttons.
He would insist
“Don’t help me. I can do this.”
2. He
wakes up in the middle of the night just to let me know he wants to pee.
He would tell “Mommy,
wiwi ako”
In English
“Mommy, I want to pee.”
3. He
already masters the DO’s and DON’T’s of potting training.
4. He
asks for his tooth brush after meals and even after eating sweets.
5. He
distinguishes the things which he’s allergic to like chicken, egg and chocolate.
One instance he
said ‘Bawal ako niyan chocolate and egg kasi kati kati ako tapos pimple ako”.
In English: I’m
not allowed to eat chocolate and egg because it gets itchy and I get pimple.
(Although that pimple he was referring to was the itchy spots on his face
whenever he eats chicken, egg or chocolate — for asthma.)
6. He
distinguishes what are some of the simple bad things and good things.
One example was
when his Tita Alexa went out of the house to get something outside and it was
raining so hard, he said “Tita Mae! Huwag ka labas! Ulan! Baka ubo ka naman!
Galit si mommy sayo.”
In English: Tita
mae! Don’t go out! It’s raining, you might get sick. Mommy will scold you.
7. He
knows how to open and close the fridge all by himself.
8. He
masters the time when the chickens should be fed.
9. He
mingles with kids of his age and talks to them.
10. He
fluently talks in Cebuano and Tagalog. Plus he practices his English language.
Sometimes being away from your
child helps him become self-supporting. If my little absence means aiding him
to grow and develop, by all means, I would love to give him space for him to do
so. All the things he learned may not have come from me alone, but that’s life.
Adults get wiser by experience and so does a child.
Still, make time for your family.
I just remembered this song from series Seventh Heaven “where can you go when
the world don’t treat you right. The answer is home. That’s the one place that you’ll
find.”
Have a great day everyone!
Don't grow up too fast kids. Mommy is not ready to let you go.. Not yet..
